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Tuesday, 30 October 2012

Weekday Blog - Tuesday October 30, 2012


Next morning, the weather was perfect for our jaunt into Bournemouth and Liz was in her wheelchair waiting for me in the reception area. The staff had dressed her in a blouse and skirt, and had given her a cardigan, just in case. It was lying across her lap. As usual, she was wearing her slippers. She always wore her slippers when she was out of bed, whether we were staying in the building, or going outside, because her feet had swelled and none of her shoes would fit her.

Walking her in the wheelchair wasn’t easy, in fact it could be downright dangerous because it didn’t have brakes, and I knew it wasn’t going to be easy walking into Bournemouth – short distance though it was – because there were some downhill gradients to negotiate. As I planned the route quickly in my head, I realised that some of them were quite steep. The wheelchair did have a parking brake, but that was only usable when the wheelchair was stationary. It couldn’t be used to slow the chair down.

The driveway from the Riseborough to Branksome Wood Road was the first of my challenges. While no more than seventy-five yards or so in length, it was fairly steep and I had to negotiate it like a yacht tacking in the wind. And it was a good thing I happened to be wearing rubber-soled shoes, because one slip and Liz would have been careering off into the traffic. My heart was in my mouth by the time we got to the road. Why on earth didn’t wheelchair manufactures put brakes on the damn things? Surely they knew the dangers.

I waited for a break in the traffic and then crossed to the pavement on the other side on the road. And that was another thing: getting a wheelchair with a heavy occupant up and over a kerb. Still, I couldn’t blame anyone for that. Then there was a downhill gradient of a couple of hundred yards until we turned into the Upper Gardens under the enormous concrete structure of the Wessex Way flyover. There was a short sharp gradient down to the tennis courts, which caused me a moment of panic, and then we were on level ground.

We made our way to the little hut which served as pavilion for the tennis club and café for passers-by, and we sat and watched people playing tennis for a while. The courts were open to the public and some of the players looked as if they had never before held a racquet. Mostly holidaymakers, judging by the way they were dressed. We watched how tennis should not be played for a while, and then wandered off in the direction of the Square.

The Square, as anyone who has ever been to Bournemouth will know, is the centre of the town. It used to be a traffic island, but it had long since been pedestrianised.
The Square was heaving. I negotiated my way through the masses then across the road, first waiting for a couple of buses to pass, and on down the ramp into the Central Gardens. The gradient was sufficiently gradual that I had no difficulty holding the wheelchair back
I stopped at the hut that sold New Forest ice cream and bought two rum and raisin ice cream cones. I looked for somewhere to sit. Most of the bench seats were taken, but there was a space at one of them and I hurried over and grabbed it before someone beat me to it. I parked the wheelchair beside me and we sat there and enjoyed our ice creams. Liz smiled at some of the passers-by. Most of them smiled back.

Next, we headed off in the direction of the beach. It would have been icing on the cake if a band had been playing in the bandstand, but it wasn’t to be. We walked across the bridge over the stream and down by the side of the Pavilion theatre. Seeing the building towering over us reminded me of all the shows Liz and I had enjoyed in there, and I had a moment of sadness when I realised I would never be seeing another show in there with her.

There was an uphill gradient, which left me breathless, as we approached the Pier Approach, then it was a level walk to the rail which overlooked the beach.

There wasn’t so much as a suggestion of a breeze, so the sea was a flat calm. A commercial speedboat was giving people rides off the side of the pier. The beach was packed with people.

We stayed until I noticed Liz’s face turning pink from the sun. She had a fair complexion and burned rather than tanned, and I mentally berated myself for not thinking to bring some sun blocker. I suggested we get back. She pulled a face, but agreed.

Gradients which had been downhill on our way out, were now, of course, uphill and I was exhausted by the time we got back to the Riseborough.

But Liz had enjoyed her outing and that was all that mattered.


Extract from my book WILL YOU TELL HER, OR SHALL I? A true story. My story. The story of how I lived with the ten-year terminal illness of my wife. Available on Amazon Kindle. www.amazon.com

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Monday, 29 October 2012

Weekday Blog - Monday October 29, 2012


I was on the point of leaving to go to the care home when the phone rang. It was Alicia, and she was in the mood to talk. And once she got started, she didn’t seem to want to stop.

I didn’t want to be late - Liz expected me at seven, and I was never late – so when Alicia paused for breath, I seized the opportunity to tell her I had to go out. I said I would call her when I got home.

She told me to have a nice evening, whatever I was doing, and would look forward to hearing from me later.

When I got to the Riseborough, Liz was sitting up in bed looking like she had just won the lottery. “Yes,” she said, pointing to herself and smiling happily. She raised her face for a kiss. I knew what she meant. She was feeling better.

“That’s brilliant,” I said, planting a kiss on her lips. “Then if you’re still feeling better tomorrow, why don’t I wheel you into Bournemouth?”

She nodded enthusiastically.

We spent the evening holding hands and watching TV. I’d never particularly liked the soaps, but watching them every evening with Liz meant that I was up to date with the characters, and the plot lines, and I found myself actually enjoying some of them.

I called Alicia when I got home and we talked until midnight.

She lived near Andover, which was about an hour’s drive from Bournemouth, and when I suggested we meet for a drink she suggested a pub by a dual carriageway on the Salisbury side of Andover. I knew the pub she had in mind; I had driven past it on numerous occasions on business trips to the north. This would mean I would be doing most of the driving, but I didn’t mind that; I enjoyed driving. I told her I would wait in my car in the car park until she got there, and then she wouldn’t have to walk into the pub on her own. She thanked me, saying she would appreciate that. We exchanged details of the cars we were driving so we could look out for each other. 


Extract from my book WILL YOU TELL HER, OR SHALL I? A true story. My story. The story of how I lived with the ten-year terminal illness of my wife. Available on Amazon Kindle. www.amazon.com

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Friday, 26 October 2012

Weekda Blog - Friday October 26, 2012


Two days later I got an email from the customer services team on the dating site informing me that my profile had been approved and was now live. I took a look, and was surprised to see a message from a lady by the name of Alicia. It hadn’t occurred to me that women might contact me. I had expected to have to make the running myself.

Alicia’s profile indicated she was 53, although in her photograph she looked no more than early twenties. She must be using an old photograph. She was blonde, with deep-set blue eyes and an engaging smile. She reminded me of Jean Harlow, the American movie star, in her prime.  Her profile indicated that she was divorced, with two grown children, both of whom had flown the nest, and two grandchildren whom she saw only rarely because they lived abroad. She lived with her tabby cat. She was a non-smoker, and drank only the occasional glass of wine. She said she was looking for a serious relationship with a man aged between 45 and 55: a man she could trust, and rely on. The last line in her profile spoke volumes: ‘If you can’t find what you’re looking for in one woman, don’t bother contacting me because I won’t be interested.

Her message to me read:

‘Hi, I was actually looking for someone younger, but you look younger than your years and I like what you say about yourself. If you are interested, get in touch and tell me something about yourself.

Best wishes,

Alicia’

She seemed to be just the kind of woman I was looking for, and I lost no time in responding.

Hi Alicia,

It’s nice to hear from you.

What can I tell you about myself? Well, I spent my life in international business, which involved me travelling on five continents, and I’ve lived in America and in the Bahamas. I’m retired now.

I enjoy meeting people and I enjoy good conversation. I live near one of Poole’s beautiful beaches and I walk a lot and I play golf. I don’t smoke and I don’t drink.

Your profile indicates that you are not interested in men who can’t find everything they want in one woman. After a long and happy marriage, I can safely say this does not apply to me. It is in my nature to make a full commitment to one woman.

I should be happy to hear more about you.

Best wishes.

Alicia responded. She wrote well. She included her email address and suggested that, rather than keep going through the website I email her direct, and by the middle of the afternoon we were exchanging emails as though we had known each other all our lives. We seemed to be on the same wavelength and she was very easy to communicate with. By the end of the afternoon, we had exchanged home phone and mobile numbers. 


Extract from my book WILL YOU TELL HER, OR SHALL? A true story. My story. The story of how I lived with the ten-year terminal illness of my wife. Now available on Amazon. www.amazon.com

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Thursday, 25 October 2012

Weekday Blog - Thursday October 25, 2012


When I settled down to write my profile, I rapidly realised that writing something an intelligent woman would find interesting was really rather difficult. But I persevered and a couple of hours later I had come up with the following:

‘Active, healthy, young-at-heart widower - who believes that life was not meant to be lived alone - would like to meet a lady interested in a serious relationship with a view to a life partnership. After a long and happy marriage, I believe I know how a relationship works and how to treat a lady. I am a one-woman man and I enjoy the simple things in life such as a walk on the beach, coffee with friends, and good conversation. I also enjoy visits to the theatre and eating at good restaurants. I play golf, and I take pride in my personal appearance. I am a devoted family man, with 7 grandchildren. I am tee-total, but I have no objection to other people enjoying a drink. The lady I seek will be comfortable within herself. She will take pride in her personal appearance, and she will be articulate and well spoken. Ideally, she will be a widow.’

I sat for a while reading what I had written, then typed it into the box provided. A box popped up saying my profile would be reviewed by the customer services team and that I should hear from them within a couple of days.

Next, I had to come up with a photograph. I didn’t have a recent one available, but in the photo software in my computer I found one I had had taken professionally for a business function about three years earlier. I was wearing a dark blue suit, white shirt and striped tie. I had always liked this picture, and thought it entirely appropriate because I still regarded myself as a businessman, even though I was retired. I transferred it to the site. Most of the profiles I had seen included several photographs, but one step at a time. I could add more if I needed to.

When I got to the Riseborough, I was distressed to see Liz lying on her bed red in the face and sweating profusely. A nurse was wiping her face with a damp cloth. She told me it was a reaction to a new medication the doctor had put Liz on because she had started having seizures again. She said the doctor had said to persevere, and that Liz should feel better when her system got used to the medication. She straightened Liz’s bedclothes and left the room.

I pulled up a chair and sat down by the bed. I took Liz’s hand in mine. It was cold and clammy. Her eyes were glazed. I wasn’t sure she was aware I was there. I didn’t know whether to leave, or stay. I stayed.


Extract from my book WILL YOU TELL HER, OR SHALL I? A true story. My story. The story of how I lived with the ten-year terminal illness of my wife. Also available on Amazon Kindle. www.amazon.com

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Wednesday, 24 October 2012

Weekday Blog - Wednesday October 24, 2012



When I woke up the morning after my second appointment with Trish, something felt different. I lay there listening to the morning traffic and trying to work out what it was. Then it struck me: the feeling of impending doom had gone. Not only that, I didn’t feel depressed either. I lay there for a while, luxuriating in my newfound freedom. It was a rare feeling of euphoria. When I was up, dressed and breakfasted, I celebrated by calling a friend and arranging a game of golf with him.

Now my mind was clear it was time to get serious about finding myself a partner, so I logged onto the dating site. They had changed the home page since I last logged on. It now displayed a photograph of an attractive young couple with a caption reading: ‘When I saw his profile he seemed too good to be true…and he is!’ REGISTER NOW and take a sneak preview at 3.5 million singles.

I entered my password and clicked on search. A page containing photographs of six women popped up. I didn’t find one of them remotely attractive, but I read their profiles anyway because it would give me some idea what to put in mine. All six were divorced, two of them more than once. I was more interested in finding a widow. Someone who had loved and lost, as I had, or was about to. I clicked on page two. Six more pictures, six more divorcees. And they all seemed to have an axe to grind about men. No thank you! I clicked on page three, and encountered exactly the same thing.

When I clicked on page four, a box popped up informing me that if I wanted to go further I had to take out a subscription. The options open to me were a seven-day trial, thirty days, ninety days, and a year. Thirty days sounded about right, so I clicked on that. I was then asked to enter my credit card details, which I did. A box popped up informing me that my application had been successful, and that the management wished me success in finding the lady of my dreams.

I realised, as I manoeuvred my way round the site, that when I wrote a profile on myself I was going have to indicate whether I was single, widowed, or divorced. This was compulsory. And after a good deal of soul-searching, I decided to tick the widowed box. My rationale for this was that, if I said I was divorced, I would be telling an outright lie. Strictly speaking, of course, it was also telling a lie to say I was widowed, but all things considered I saw this as more of a technicality than an outright lie because I would be widowed soon. And I figured I had sufficient nous to explain the situation when I needed to.


Extract from my book WILL YOU TELL HER, OR SHALL I? A true story. My story. The story of how I lived with the ten-year terminal illness of my wife. Also available on Amazon Kindle. www.amazon.com

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Tuesday, 23 October 2012

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Weekday Blog - Tuesday October 23, 2102


Trish consulted her notes. “Last week, you mentioned you were having feelings of guilt. You’ve obviously come to terms with the guilt you were feeling about looking for another partner, so what else are you feeling guilty about?”

“Not being able to make her better.”

“If the best medical treatment available can’t make her better, and it can’t, how can you be expected to? What else are you feeling guilty about?”

“Not being able to have her at home, which is what I know she wanted.”

“Could you provide the level of care she needs at home?”

“No, of course not.”

“Then why beat yourself up about it?”

“I suppose you’re right,” I said.

“I think that, for your own peace of mind, you should accept that there’s nothing you can do for Liz, above and beyond what you are already doing. Get on with your life. Start thinking about yourself.”

“What about me waking up depressed?”

“I think that for some reason you are harbouring thoughts that you are responsible for Liz’s condition, which you patently are not, and, after what we have uncovered today, I feel your depression will go the same way as your feeling of impending doom.”

“Well,” I said. “Then I think we’ve covered everything. Do you think I will need another appointment?”

“Not if you feel you can manage without one,” Trish said. “Why don’t we leave it that you see how you get on? If you need another appointment, give me a call.”


Extract from my book WILL YOU TELL HER, OR SHALL I? A true story. My story. The story of how I lived with the ten-year terminal illness of my wife. Now available on Amazon Kindle. www.amazon.com

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