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Friday, 26 October 2012

Weekda Blog - Friday October 26, 2012


Two days later I got an email from the customer services team on the dating site informing me that my profile had been approved and was now live. I took a look, and was surprised to see a message from a lady by the name of Alicia. It hadn’t occurred to me that women might contact me. I had expected to have to make the running myself.

Alicia’s profile indicated she was 53, although in her photograph she looked no more than early twenties. She must be using an old photograph. She was blonde, with deep-set blue eyes and an engaging smile. She reminded me of Jean Harlow, the American movie star, in her prime.  Her profile indicated that she was divorced, with two grown children, both of whom had flown the nest, and two grandchildren whom she saw only rarely because they lived abroad. She lived with her tabby cat. She was a non-smoker, and drank only the occasional glass of wine. She said she was looking for a serious relationship with a man aged between 45 and 55: a man she could trust, and rely on. The last line in her profile spoke volumes: ‘If you can’t find what you’re looking for in one woman, don’t bother contacting me because I won’t be interested.

Her message to me read:

‘Hi, I was actually looking for someone younger, but you look younger than your years and I like what you say about yourself. If you are interested, get in touch and tell me something about yourself.

Best wishes,

Alicia’

She seemed to be just the kind of woman I was looking for, and I lost no time in responding.

Hi Alicia,

It’s nice to hear from you.

What can I tell you about myself? Well, I spent my life in international business, which involved me travelling on five continents, and I’ve lived in America and in the Bahamas. I’m retired now.

I enjoy meeting people and I enjoy good conversation. I live near one of Poole’s beautiful beaches and I walk a lot and I play golf. I don’t smoke and I don’t drink.

Your profile indicates that you are not interested in men who can’t find everything they want in one woman. After a long and happy marriage, I can safely say this does not apply to me. It is in my nature to make a full commitment to one woman.

I should be happy to hear more about you.

Best wishes.

Alicia responded. She wrote well. She included her email address and suggested that, rather than keep going through the website I email her direct, and by the middle of the afternoon we were exchanging emails as though we had known each other all our lives. We seemed to be on the same wavelength and she was very easy to communicate with. By the end of the afternoon, we had exchanged home phone and mobile numbers. 


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